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Schwul in Kambodscha Gay in Cambodia: LGBTQ+ Situation in the Asian Kingdom © Café Krousar/A Place To Be Yourself (Jason Argenta)

LGBT & Gay in Cambodia: Rejection & Violence after Coming Out

In addition to the two genders, male and female, Cambodia’s national language Khmer also knows the third gender kteuy, which describes a person who has the physical characteristics of one gender but the behavior of the other. However, the linguistics here is already much further than the situation for LGBT people in the country. Although a gay pride has been taking place regularly in the capital Phnom Penh since 2003, Prime Minister Hun Sen also made negative headlines because he rejected his lesbian adoptive daughter in 2007.

Subsequently, however, he relativized his actions by publicly declaring that he did not recommend parents to do the same. Couple of Men reporter Sarah traveled around the Asian kingdom alone as a woman and was able to get an idea of the situation of the local LGBTQ+ community gay men in Cambodia. After GeorgiaLebanonMyanmar, Vietnam, and Russia, she is now analyzing the Asian country on life as gay and LGBTQ + in Cambodia for Couple of Men.

 

Written by Sarah Tekath
Translated by Karl Krause

 

 

Gay in Cambodia Schwul in Kambodscha: Performance of Tola © Café Krousar/ A Place To Be Yourself - Jason Argenta

Performance of Tola, a gay man in Cambodia © Café Krousar/ A Place To Be Yourself – Jason Argenta

 

LGBT in Cambodia – Implement, not just accept

Even if homosexuality has never been illegal in the country’s history, same-sex relationships are still not recognized before the law. There are also no anti-discrimination laws in place, not even talking about the right to get married or to adopt a child.

One who is committed to improving the legal situation for LGBT people in Cambodia is Sidara Nuon, coordinator of the SOGI program launched by the Cambodian Center for Human Rights (CCHR) in 2010. The abbreviation SOGI stands for Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity. The NGO is committed to creating a legal basis on which a strong LGBT community can emerge. The activist explains: “Many people in Cambodia still believe that LGBT people come from another universe. That is precisely why it is important that we create awareness in society for the existence and, consequently, also for the rights of LGBT people.” Politicians currently believe that LGBT people are a minority and their needs are not necessarily a top priority.

That is why CCHR is currently making a concrete effort to give LGBT people the right to marry in the country, as Article 45 of the Constitution still defines marriage as a community between men and women. At the same time, anti-discrimination laws are to be implemented, since members of the community are exposed to severe degradation, insults and bullying at school and at work. The above-mentioned linguistic third gender kteuy is used as a bad word, shows the report ‘Rainbow Khmer: From Prejudice to Pride’ published at the end of 2012, by CCHR.

 

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Gay Travel Index 2019

The annual updated ranking of Spartacus’ Gay Travel Index for 2019 informs travelers about the situation of lesbians, gays, bisexuals and transgender people in 197 countries and regions around the world. Which countries are gay-friendly? Where do LGBTQ + travelers have to be extra careful?

 

Discrimination by teachers

The conservative attitude of the parent generation can also be found in the teachers at Cambodian schools because studies have shown that more than half of the teaching staff are actively involved in teasing LGBT people. CCHR has therefore developed a program to create more understanding of the spectrum of sexual identity in schools. “However, the students are not the problem,” says activist Sidara Nuon, “the younger generation is tolerant. But if the teachers simply ignore the teaching material or are not behind it themselves, the best curriculum will not help.” Therefore, once the SOGI program has officially become part of the curriculum, the NGO also wants to offer workshops for teachers or lesson plans.

 

Gay in Cambodia Schwul in Kambodscha A place to be yourself (APTBY) in Siem Reap © Café Krousar/A Place To Be Yourself (Jason Argenta)

A place to be yourself (APTBY) in Siem Reap – to be gay in Cambodia © Café Krousar/A Place To Be Yourself (Jason Argenta)

 

 

After coming out, rejected by parents

But LGBT people experience hostility not only in public spaces such as school or work but also in their own personal environment. The government’s assumption that there are hardly any followers of the LGBT community in Cambodia is primarily based on the fact that a coming-out is associated with considerable conflicts and risks, which is why many choose not to do so. If a family learns that their son or daughter is homosexual, the parents often reacted with violence, house arrest or treatments with traditional Khmer medicine, Sidara Nuon knows. It is not uncommon for healers to be brought in to drive out the evil spirits that cause homosexuality.

Many also believe that homosexuality is something that has been imported from the West to undermine traditional Cambodian family values or that can be caused by chemicals in the food. Conservative Buddhists are convinced that homosexuality is a punishment for sin from a previous life.

 

 

The NGO Rainbow Community Kampuchea (RoCK) found out in a study in 2019 that 81 percent of lesbians, bisexuals and transgender people experienced emotional violence from their family. If these measures fail to work, the children would mostly be rejected, explains Sidara Nuon. Like in the case of Prime Minister Hun Sen. In 35 percent of those affected, this form of emotional abuse leads to thoughts of suicide, the study shows.

If the children are of legal age when they come out, the measures taken by the parents are even more radical. “Women, in particular, are often forced into marriages,” says the activist. Part of the parents’ motivation is also their own financial security in old age because, in Cambodia, where the concept of pension does not exist, the family of the children is responsible for care. RoCK research found out that 10 percent of LGBT people experience sexual violence in these forced marriages.

 

Gay in Myanmar

Handbag throwing and racing in high heels – These are recordings of the Drag Queen Olympics in Yangon, Myanmar. The country, which is also known colloquially as Burma and which is still one of the most conservative countries in Southeast Asia. Life for LGBTQ+ people there is anything but easy.

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A place to be yourself – LGBTQ+ in Cambodia

Often, however, it is not just external influences that LGBT people in Cambodia have to deal with, but also internalized homophobia, i.e. self-loathing for their own sexual identity. “A lot of gays in Cambodia believe they don’t deserve better than to offer themselves as sex workers because they are gay,” said Australian Jason Argenta, who moved to Siem Reap in 2014. Together with his partner Tola An, he runs the Café Krousar, which also includes the A Place To Be Yourself (APTBY) project.

 

Here, members of the local LGBT community have the opportunity to receive information in a nonjudgemental space, to get in touch with each other and to exchange ideas. An additional goal is to create awareness and the sensitivity for what terms and expressions in Khmer can be perceived as hurtful or discriminatory since it is common even within the LGBT community to use swearwords for each other.

Comparable workshops are also offered for companies and local NGOs, although the public is usually silent about them. “Although many companies take part in our training courses, they don’t want to be linked to on Facebook or any other social media channel,” explains the activist. The concern about negative reactions in public is too great.

 

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Being Gay in Vietnam

In Southeast Asia in general, homosexuality is often still illegal and is understood as an illness or punishment for sins in a previous life. But the LGBT activists in Vietnam have found their own way to improve the situation for the local LGBTQ+ community.

 

Gay in Cambodia

In cooperation with local clinics, hospitals and doctors, APTBY also offers medical / psychological counseling, free contraceptives and HIV tests. “There is a mistrust of doctors that if they’re also gay, they might spread test results for sexually transmitted diseases to the community, contrary to medical confidentiality,” said Jason Argenta. The Australian explains that he has had no problems even with his own coming-out, so he now wants to help others accept their own sexual identity. His partner Tola An, however, has had different experiences.

 

 

 
 
 
 
 
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“I was interested in dance at an early age and now also work as a dancer in Siem Reap. However, my father would prefer it if I had a more ‘male’ job.” He also never officially outed himself to his parents, although he suspects that his mother knows. “My father always asks when I’m finally going to marry and give him a grandson.” He thought Jason was just a good friend and even when he announced that the two wanted to build a house together, he said that the two of them will then be able to live there with their future wives. Outside the city centers of Phnom Penh and Siem Reap, this way of thinking is expected to be the standard.

 

Being Gay in Lebanon

Lebanon has a reputation in the Middle East for being the most liberal of all countries when it comes to the LGBTQ+ community in general. But that doesn’t mean that the law and conservative trends within society make the situation for LGBTQ+ in Lebanon very easy.

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LGBT and Gay Travelers in Cambodia

In Cambodia, efforts to attract international LGBT travelers to the country were made at an early stage, for example with the ‚Adore Cambodia!‘ Tourism campaign launched in 2011, but only with moderate success. Especially in the city of Siem Reap, where the Café Krousar and APTBY are located, the LGBT scene is more evident than in the capital Phnom Penh. Gay saunas and massage studios can also be found there, but it can be assumed that the market there is more oriented towards sex tourism than trying to strengthen the local LGBTQ+ community.

Meanwhile, numerous gay bars, drag shows and men-only hotels have opened in Siem Reap. Pride events have also been held there since 2004, and since 2018 even on an annual basis taking place in May. However, there has never been an official LGBT & Gay Pride Parade.

 

Schwul in Kambodscha Gay in Cambodia: LGBTQ+ Situation in the Asian Kingdom © Café Krousar/A Place To Be Yourself (Jason Argenta)

Gay in Cambodia: The current LGBTQ+ situation in the Asian kingdom

 

However, social media have shown a positive change in recent years, confirm Tola An, Jason Argenta and Sidara Nuon. But this mainly affects young people who are more open and tolerant anyway. Older generations continued to maintain their conservative ideas about tbe LGBTQ+ community and gay men in Cambodia.

Travel Planning: Cambodian Center for Human Rights | Wikipedia LGBT rights in Cambodia

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More about Sarah

The first woman behind Couple of Men. My name is Sarah and I was born in Germany. So far I have lived and worked in the Czech Republic, Spain, and the Netherlands. Currently, I am working in Amsterdam. I am a journalist and in 2016, I decided to become freelancer. I enjoy writing about topics that I consider important, like human rights, women’s rights, LGBTQ+ rights, and politics, and I hope my articles will raise some more awareness of global injustice. I follow my passion for traveling, I love to read and to make music. And the best part is that I can choose to turn into a digital nomad for a while whenever I feel like it. So my article might come from a sunny beach in Argentina.

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